“She is so much more pretty than me.”
"Their relationship is just perfect. I’ll never be like them.”
Karl Malone and John Stockton were one of the greatest duos in NBA history. Malone scored the second most career points in basketball history of the course of his 18 seasons. John Stockton is 45th on that list.
Do you think Stockton view his career as a failure? He would if he was comparing himself to Malone. But Stockton knew that his goal was not to score as many points as possible. That’s not how he could best help his team win. Stockton was an assist man, and not just any assist man. He’s the leading assister in professional basketball history.
What if John Stockton hadn’t defined his own goals and success as a basketball player? Perhaps he would have gotten caught up in comparing himself to Karl Malone, and then the Utah Jazz would have missed out on 6 division titles, 2 conference titles, and some of the most exciting basketball the NBA has ever seen.
It is so easy to compare ourselves to others. But have you ever stopped to ask what is actually happening when we do this? When we compare ourselves to others, we are essentially stealing other people’s goals, other people’s standards. We are defining our success by their definition. Doesn’t that sound silly? Why would we do this? I think the answer is simple, because we haven’t done it for ourselves. Perhaps you’re reading this and realizing that you’re a Stockton who’s been comparing herself to a Malone. Well then, allow this section to give you permission to CUT IT OUT, define your own success, and be the best Stockton you can be.